Let’s face it, life just isn’t easy. Everyday there seems to be a new obstacle or challenge that is just outside our control and negative self-talk can be our worst enemy.
Some challenges we are prepared for and others come out of the blue.
Some days there’s more stuff. Some days less.
We’ve definitely got to know what we can control and what we can’t.
More importantly, we need to know how to roll with the punches and keep it simple.
Rolling with those punches does not just happen, this does take a small degree of control, the control of one very important thing – our thoughts.
Negative thoughts and feelings can do a lot of damage, so it’s important to keep the negative brain chatter down. I know that this can be easier said than done, but here are
3 ways of stopping negative self-talk:
Breathe: If you start thinking negative thoughts, and you are feeling overwhelmed and upset, pause, and breathe. Breathing is the most basic, most primal, and vital thing you’ve got. When everything falls apart, well at least you can breathe. So, go ahead, Go to it! Focusing on your breath will help slow your heart rate and calm you towards clarity.
Acknowledge it: When you start to have negative thoughts or feel overwhelmed, acknowledge this. You’re not going to stop the thoughts or ease the anxiety by ignoring them. This reminds me of a Haiku I wrote:
Dig deep now. Dark. Low.
Find your Fear There. Stare it down.
Give it a doughnut.
Consider the cause: What’s at the root of these thoughts? Is it fear? Is it self-doubt? Why are these thoughts creeping in and why are they controlling me as opposed to the other way around? Take some time to consider where these thoughts come from, confront them, and take action. Sometimes you can take them and sometimes you need to let go. Follow the steps and you’ll know the right way to go.